Women keep hearing over and over from guys in different situations that these men want to date and have relationships with classy women. Just glance at most of the men’s dating profiles, and you will see that practically all of them want to meet and and date a woman who has “class.” Indeed, being called “classy” is an ultimate compliment to a woman. But, what does it really mean being classy? After searching the internet for the answer to this question, I wasn’t very satisfied, because every attempt to define a “classy woman” had one fundamental flaw – a woman can have all the qualities that make her classy according to those sources and still not to have much “class.” The formal definition of being “classy” also doesn’t do much to understanding what class means in the context of dating and attraction.
For instance, being a sharp dresser, clean, and not using profanities are certainly qualities that flatter to a woman, but… they hardly make her come across as having “class,” if she talks too much and constantly draws attention to her persona. Being professional, educated, and having a great sense of humor are very attractive qualities in a woman but if she has temper issues this pretty much cancels out her potential to come across as classy.
I truly believe that just like in the case of distinction between flirting and regular conversation, being classy is not in the “what” but in the “how.” It’s how you act, how you carry yourself, how you express yourself and how you live your life that determines class.
A very small minority of women who don’t have class are able to develop one and become truly classy, as doing this requires reflecting on your own self, recognizing you possible lack of qualities that would make you classy (something that few, if any women, would want to do) and working in all the necessary directions to build that attractive flair of class and sophistication.
However, if you believe that you belong to that minority of women who are open to constructive self-criticism and you are willing to take a few practical steps toward becoming more classy, here are some of the fundamental elements of a woman’s personality that makes her more “classy:”
Knowledge, Wit, and Sense of Humor – there is no way around it – perceived class has little weight and value if the person behind it has no interesting thoughts, opinions, views or observations. Being class requires an ability to share and challenge ideas and be an engaging company.
Style – a sense of fashion is an integral part of class. While having an eclectic style may be considered “cool,” if you want to come across as a classy dresser, you can hardly go wrong with a business/casual look or a simple, clean cut, fitting (but not too fitting) attire. Simple, straight colors (white, black, blue) flatter most women.
Feminine demeanor and manners - a classy woman is in touch with her feminine nature. Her mission in life is not in challenging men and competing with men wherever possible; she enjoys pleasing men without feeling ashamed of it, and is proud to be a woman. She recognizes the differences between men and women in psychology, physiology and sexuality and accepts those differences as laws of nature. As such, she does not hate men, and is not overly skeptical or pessimistic about her ability to fall in love and enjoy great romance.
Elegance – this concept, along with femininity and style is hard to define, and the formal definition of “elegance” is again of not much use. Many guys would agree that the know elegance when they see it, but this kind of statement is of little use to a woman who wants to become more elegant. Elegance is the manner in which a woman carries her self in just about every situation. Elegance is in her voice, movement and body language, manner of speech, the way she stands sits, and responds to other people around her. Some of these traits, such as voice, and a walk – are part of our nature, while other elements of elegance, such as our interpersonal skills are strongly linked to our upbringing. Other qualities are acquired through habit or from friends and not all of them can be altered. Observing women who are known to be classy (whether on television or in real life), paying attention and trying to identify the specific elements of the behavior and actions that make them stand out and come across as more classy will take any woman who is willing to become more classy a long way toward that goal. It might be something as small and seemingly insignificant a laughter of an actress that you would notice in a woman that strikes you as so much softer, feminine and attractive than the one you overheard the other night at a bar from a woman whose entire body was covered with tattoos and piercings. However, when it comes to elegance and class, there is no such thing as small and insignificant as class is a sum of many, many elements of one’s personality, behavior, and actions, some of which are more obvious than others, but all of which are essential for the “total package” to be considered elegant and classy.
Hygiene – class cannot coexist with dirt, bad smell and unappealing habits such as burping, spitting in public and alike.The most beautiful woman loses a bulk of her sex appeal when she belches, so make sure you don’t allow yourself such “liberties” at the expense of your feminine aura.
Subtlety – this is one of the most important qualities and distinguishing characteristic of having class. To be classy, you must be subtle in many areas of your life. Subtlety implies a degree of moderation, lack of flamboyance, lack of impulse to attract attention, and generally not trying too hard. A subtle woman has style but she doesn’t look like a designer model; she dresses sexy but does not look trashy like a typical stripper when going out; she puts such a small amount of perfume and make-up that one can barely tell that she has any; she talks just enough but certainly not too much and tends to be on a quite side; her laughter is pleasant to hear but not too loud; she hardly ever swears; and her voice is soft and sensual. A classy woman will usually come across as “low-key” in a social situation. This is not to say that she is shy or lacking confidence. On the contrary – her confidence puts her at ease and relieves her of any desire or need to validate herself to her company.
Success coupled with Modesty and Humbleness – a classy woman does not need to run around and tell everyone how smart and successful she is, as this urge to validate yourself is a clear sign of insecurity and lack of class in both men and women. A classy woman lets her actions, rather than loud words, prove to others who she is, but she is not in a hurry to announce her “status” to the people around her.
Pride – a classy woman knows how to get angry the “right” way. She doesn’t get “ballistic,” abusive or violent with guys, as she knows that there is always a better option – to simply walk away from a bad situation.
Being a classy woman clearly requires work in these and many more avenues of one’s personality, but taking into consideration the above five factors will take you a long way toward becoming a more classy and thus a much more attractive woman to men.